Communication: Getting Our Message Across

Why Don't We Say What We Mean

We don’t say what we mean often because we don’t know what we think and feel. Our thinking and feeling are fuzzy. (Think Young Man trying to tell his feelings to his new girl friend who keeps pressing for "tell me what you feel about me.")

If we say what we think, we think we may hurt someone’s feelings, so we obscure the message.

If we obscure the message, others miss the point.

If others miss the point, they ignore it.

If they ignore it, nothing changes. If nothing changes, they’re off the hook.

If they’re off the hook, we’re blameless.

If we’re blameless, we can at least say we "tried."

And even the word "try" is negative - when we say "I'll try to be there" our brains say, "Nawwwww... I'll NEVER be there."

Yoda says: "There is DO and there is DON'T DO... there is NO try."

Think about THAT when communicating next.


Charlie Seymour Jr
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